If you have tried everything, and still cannot Conner discord with patreon try this as a last resource:
do you have chrome browser? open a “guest” window….to be sure there’s nothing weird installed causing issues.
log into your discord account in that same window of chrome
log into your patreon
so now you have two tabs in the same browser…even better if you don’t have discord desktop installed to avoid also weird things happening
when you open http://patreon.com/settings/apps if discord is already connected, disconnect it.
if it’s not connected hit connect, it should not open any window it should just go to discord there in the same window of chrome.
Doing that has never failed for me.
if that doesnt work try on mobile…having both apps installed and logged into your corresponding accounts…
If non of this helps contact patreon support